5 WRONG REASONS TO GET MARRIED
For some women, marriage is all they can think of. But for others, the mere mention of the word, throws a chill down their spine! Commitment phobia has long been haunting women too, but more often than not, their positive response is influenced rather than intentional. Here are some of the factors that can manipulate your decision, and how you can avoid it.
…because my best friend got married: When a close girlfriend is tying the knot, it’s perfectly natural to feel doubtful about yourself. However, don’t let this influence you into saying ‘yes’ if you are not emotionally prepared for it. Marriage is a huge decision, therefore it’s important to analyse the pros and cons before you plunge into it.
…because we have been dating for years: Just because you have been going steady with your boyfriend for many years, it’s not necessary to jump up and say ‘yes’ as soon as he pops the question. Talk to him and explain that you need more time to prepare yourself and ‘now’ is not the time. Tell him that marriage is definitely on the cards, but both of you need to plan several things before you go for it.
…because my parents are pressurising me: Isn’t that something we all have to face at one time — as if it’s the end of the world if you don’t get married! Don’t let societal norms influence your decision; say you’re ready when you actually are. Talk to your folks and explain to them that you are not going to jump into something that you are not prepared for.
…because the biological clock is ticking: Now, we have heard this several times, from our friends, family and relatives. However, this should not be the reason to plunge into marriage. Family planning is not something you should rush into; take your finances and job security into consideration before you make any decision.
…because marriage will solve my problems: At times it may seem that you’re standing at a dead-end — be it professionally or in your relationship. When nothing seems to be going your way, life only frustrates you further. Getting married at this juncture is not the healthy thing to do as it may further complicate things. You need to first sort out your problems with the help of your friends and your close ones. Once your mind is at peace, you can plan your marriage.
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