How to Make Up With Your Best Friend
She tolerates all your whining, and sticks up for you even when you’ve messed up and everyone is against you. She’s the one you called when you broke up with your boyfriend and she’s the one who waited till you’ve cried a bucketful of tears to say, ”I told you so.”
Your best friend has seen you at your worst and still loves you unconditionally. Such a close relationship is bound to have its twists and turns, so a fight with a best friend is pretty normal. But what do you do when it’s blown out of proportion? Here is how you can make up with your best friend and sort things out.
1. Talk it out
No matter whose fault it is, don’t wait for her to make the first move. Friendships break because no one makes the first move after a fight. You know she’s important to you, so call her and talk things out. If you’re at fault, explain yourself without justifying your mistake. Don’t be worried about being judged because she’s your best friend for a reason.
Don’t just go on and on about how hurt you are. Your best friend must be going through some stuff too. must be going through life changing events and is having a tough time for all you know. Listen to what she has to say before ranting about your feelings. It takes a good listener to build stronger friendships.
Don’t bring your ego in this valuable friendship. Often we let our ego get the better of us and don’t apologise even when we’ve really hurt the other person. But even if you’re not at fault, it doesn’t cost to say sorry for the pain the fight may have caused your friend. Trust us, a heartfelt apology can really make things better.
4. Write a letter
If you’re one of those who can’t talk openly about your feelings, then just write them down on paper, You might not necessarily be at fault, but a sweet gesture like this for your best friend won’t hurt! More than anything, these letters while bring a smile to her face years down the line.
5. Bring in a common friend
Sometimes no matter how hard you try, your BFF won’t ‘coz she’s a tad too stubborn. Share your problem with someone who is close to both of you and ask that person to talk to her instead. She might just understand better when a third person explains it.
6. Give her time
After you’ve tried everything in your power to sort things out with her, give her some time to cool down. She might be someone who needs time to go over what you’ve said. Don’t expect her to get back to normal in an instant just because you work that way. Give her some time. She’ll ponder over the conversation and take a step towards you on her own.
7. Have a heart to heart
Sometimes stating the obvious is necessary, because it feels good to be reassured of something you already know. Tell her how important she is to you and how much you need her in your life. For best results, land up at her place with the comfort food she loves and talk your heart out!
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