5 Ways to Help Your Child Deal with School Stress.

5 Ways to Help Your Child Deal with School Stress

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Stress at school is a common phenomenon that little ones face. Who would imagine tiny angels burdened with such a lot of pressure. But coping with schoolwork, homework, extra classes, tests and exams can be a tiresome thing and more so if they are disinterested. Top that with the pressure of being the best and you have a child who is fed-up with life already! As parents, we’ve got to set this right and help our kids lead a happier, stress-free life.

We need to help our kids deal with school-related stress and motivate them to grow stronger both physically and mentally. Here are some tips which may help you give greater support, encouragement and confidence to your little one and help her achieve the best she can.

1. Identify the symptoms of stress:

Firstly, identify the symptoms in your child that indicate that she is under stress. Some of the apparent signs and symptoms of being under stress are irritable behaviour, change in sleep and appetite, lack of concentration in studies and more. So, recognise these indications of stress in your child and help her cope with stress.

2. Talk to your child about her fears: 

Talk to your child about her worries, tensions and anxieties. By talking to her, you will be able to find out what is troubling her. Let her take time to calm down before she starts speaking. Further, listen to her carefully and assure her that you will help her find solutions. Make sure not to talk to your child about stress in front of others, as she may find it difficult to open up. Find a place within home or somewhere outside, where your child can freely speak her heart out.

3. Maintain a pleasant environment at home: 

Find out what changes can be made at home to de-stress those situations that can cause anxiety. Make time at the end of the day for the entire family to talk to each other about the day’s events and also involve your child in such conversations. Remember to maintain a congenial environment, as a stress-free atmosphere at home will help your child in conquering her anxiety, stress and tension.

4. Help your child finish assignments herself:

Assisting your child to finish her homework all the time will make her over-dependent. Moreover, as she grows, she may not be able to cope with her studies at higher grades in the absence of your supervision. This in turn may make situations difficult and stressful for her. Therefore, make your child self-dependent and capable of doing work herself without always seeking support.

5. Teach her good time management skills:

Good time management skills can help your child cope with anxiety experienced during examination and while completing lengthy home assignments. So, prepare a flexible schedule that best suits her learning style. Make sure that she can follow the timetable without much effort. However, do not set strict rules for studying, because if your child is not able to cope with the set guidelines, she may get tensed and feel stressed, which in turn may not bring the desired results. In the end, remember that although it is impossible to avoid the challenges in school that may cause stress, you can always help your child to overcome them in ways that would give her the foundation to solve problems later in life. Therefore, be a guide; a mentor; a moral support and above all, a stress-buster for your child so that she enjoys her school days in the best possible way.

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10 Questions Moms Should Ask their Kids Everyday

Asking questions will encourage kids to share

10 Questions Moms Should Ask their Kids Everyday

By Mansi Zaveri.

Asking questions will encourage kids to share

Parents often hear monosyllabic answers when they ask their kids about their day. The answer “fine”, “okay” or “good” doesn’t tell us enough to know what our kids really did during the day while they were away. As a parent, I was curious to know how my child spent her day at school.  My husband always has an interactive session with the girls about how his day was and shares even the minutest details about his office, meetings, boss and lunch. At first, I would wonder how a three-year-old would articulate all that. But now when my daughter is six-years-old and the two chat about this every single day, I love to watch them exchange notes about their daily routine. Taking inspiration, I soon followed the same exercise of asking questions. I realised that it is extremely interesting to know the stories that kids have to share. Now, my daughter looks forward to each of these questions and in return I get to know more about her likes, dislikes, friends, class room conversations, bus rides and all the naughty things she does throughout the day.


Here are the 10 Question I make a point to ask my kids every day and you should too.


1. Highlights of her day at school – Three best and three not so good things that happened?


2. Naughty things on the bus ride.


3. What physical activities did she do today?


4. Three good things and three naughty things she did.


5. One thing that she did better today than earlier/the day before.


6. Who made her happy and who made her sad in school?


7. What did all her friends get in their snack box today? (Helps her realise that others are eating a variety of foods, some of which she may like while others are disliked. It also helps me get ideas on snack box options.)


8. Three new things that she learnt today: A word, a lesson/fact, about her friends, about herself, this could be about anything at all.


9. One act of random kindness she is proud of.


10. One wrong thing that Mom and Dad did today.


The answers will not only surprise you, but also enlighten you about your child’s experiences during the day. Morever, it will even serve as feedback from a totally unbiased soul.


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25 Ways to Make a Girl Smile

25 Ways to Make a Girl Smile

By | posted Jul 15th 2014 at 6:00AM


Ever noticed how a little puppy only has to wag his tail and nudge you with its tiny paw to make you smile? Well, winning a girl over is that easy. You don’t need to have a funny bone or a romantic vein in your body; to make a girl laugh all you need is a sincere wish to see a big, bright smile on her face. Here are 25 ways to make a girl smile.

1. Surprise her with a nice dinner when she comes home. If you don’t know how to cook, then order her favourite dish from a restaurant.

2. Sing her to sleep. Let her feel like a child.




3. Send her a cute text while she’s sleeping. So when she wakes up, she’ll wake up with a smile.

4. Call her beautiful, instead of pretty, cute or gorgeous.

5. Go out for a stroll. Hold her hand while walking.




6. Have a date planned out so all she has to do is look good and show up.

7. Sneak up behind her, hold her around her waist, kiss her softly on the neck and tell her you love her.




8. Randomly send her a text telling her you miss her.

9. Bring her flowers for no reason at all. Not just when you’re in trouble or on Valentine’s Day.




10. Make her a handmade card.

11. Buy her a pair of earrings or anklets. Then every time she wears it, she’ll think about you and smile.

12. Give her a bear hug.




13. Play with her hair.

14. Hold her hand while crossing a road. Open the door for her when you enter a restaurant.




15. Set a special caller tune for her.

16. Give her a foot massage or a back rub.

17. Take her best friends out for coffee / dinner. She’ll appreciate your gesture of getting to know her friends. Also, the compliments her friends will give her for being so lucky to have a thoughtful boyfriend like you will make her gloat.




18. Support her ambition.

19. Don’t get jealous of her guy friends. Don’t impose a rulebook of dos and don’ts on her. This will let her know that you trust her completely.

20. Spend a night watching a movie and cuddling instead of going out with the guys.

21. Slow-dance with her even if there’s no music.




22. Write something romantic on her Facebook wall. Seeing her friends get jealous will secretly make her happy.



23. Unexpectedly, tell her one thing you liked about her the first time you met her.

24. Tell her how much you love her. It doesn’t hurt to be expressive once in a while.




25. Begin a sentence with, “Next year on your birthday…”, “Next Christmas we’ll…” or “Next rainy season we’ll…” This will let her know that you’re serious about this relationship and that you’re in it for the long haul.

Do you know any other way to make a girl smile? Leave us a comment and let us know

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10 Habits That Could Kill Your Joy: Part II

10 Habits That Could Kill Your Joy: Part II

By | posted Jul 21st 2014 at 11:17AM

10 Habits That Could Kill Your Joy – Part 2


6. Hanging on to old beliefs

Take a few moments to listen to your inner soundtrack when you read or hear what others express. Notice that you have your own beliefs working as a filter or a lens through which you see and listen. Do you have an “always” and “never” mentality?
This is when you have a belief or statement that you use to generalise everything you experience. I won’t list too many of the common typical statements here but they resemble:
“People can’t be trusted.” (Or a certain sect of people can’t be trusted.)
“It is very hard to succeed.”
“Birds of a feather flock together.”
“Once bitten, twice shy.”
“I never win.”
“I always get sick after XYZ.”
It is the habit of generalising where you make things either “good or bad”, “right or wrong” and you live in judgment. This is a double-edged sword as you will apply the same harsh rules to yourself. There is no middle ground.
Ease up and cut yourself and the people in your life some slack. Things may not be exactly as you see it. Your beliefs may be outdated and disempowering. Give life a chance and learn to trust a little.
Here’s what Tony Robbins says, “All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost you pain in the past, but it’s costing you in the present and, ultimately, can only bring you pain in the future. Then you must associate tremendous pleasure to the idea of adopting a new, empowering belief.”

Every opportunity I get, I remind people that they are good enough, to be, do and have whatever it is they truly desire. “I am good enough” is the mantra to replace all the others that don’t evoke positive emotions in you.
In order to truly start embodying the new belief, you have to add action based on it. Not doing so, will only feed your old limiting belief. For example, if you had a belief that you are broke, you need to do something every day that shows you that you are wealthy and blessed. Take small steps to help breathe life into your new powerful beliefs.
Notice too when your thoughts and comments are extremely one-sided and judgmental. When you look through the filter of your beliefs, you can’t see both sides of the coin. Use the acronym W.A.I.T. (Why Am I Talking?), and take a few minutes to view the situation from different angles.
7. Not keeping your relationships in good repair.
Not giving affection to the special people in your life and giving too much time to the people who sap your energy.
We cannot deny that the people in our lives have a great influence on how we feel and we need to choose wisely. If you have a helper or employee who manages to upset you or bring out the worst in you, first, look at yourself and see if you are deliberately keeping this person in your life because you want a punching bag, or if this person perhaps is mirroring attributes about yourself that you are ashamed of and try to hide? If you can be honest that it is neither, then you can either change your attitude towards this person or you can also choose how much of power and time you’d like to give away to them.
More importantly, nurture the relationships you love. Make time daily and even several times a day to connect and GIVE love to the people you care about. Instead of waiting for them to show you appreciation and care, why not give it? The only way to have more joy and love in your life is to BE loving and joyful. Watch that your communication with loved ones is not always about getting them to do things or complaining to them.


8. Ignoring your health 
This includes binge drinking, smoking or eating. It also includes always making excuses or postponing exercise or being healthy, thinking you are enjoying life and will be healthy later or tomorrow. Realise that you would enjoy life more if you looked after your health. Not making time for exercise is just making time for illness. Keep pace and maintain a sustainable lifestyle so that you can live it for the long haul with balance. It takes only a few weeks to form new habits and tastes. Even something like sugar, after a few days of drinking tea or coffee without it will get you used to the taste and you will start enjoying it. Exercising every day too, once you stick with it for the first few weeks, you will feel more uncomfortable when you don’t! Create healthy eating and exercising habits that will last you a lifetime. When you are older, you will thank you for it. Start today, if not now, then when?


9. Having unrealistic expectations of yourself
Having unrealistic expectations of yourself and others is the surest way to kill your joy. You just can’t lose 10 kilos overnight (even Lipo takes time). Your relationships won’t improve without your loving energy and dropping most of these killjoy habits. You won’t be able to pay off $32k debt in a week. Your new business won’t be profitable from Day 1. So be kind with yourself, be realistic and give 100% effort and then accept where you are with the faith that you are getting there, slowly but surely.
10. Entitlement issues with others
Your family doesn’t owe you anything, your friends don’t have to pay for your drinks, your child may forget to acknowledge your help. Your brother may not buy you gifts, your partner may not remember your anniversary. No one owes you anything. The sooner you accept this, the quicker you will take responsibility of your joy and become adept at creating it in your daily life independently! I believe that Emotional Independence is one of the most important skills you can learn.
Instead of always setting people up to fail, make crystal clear requests of them if you really want something and if you still don’t get it, check your communication skills and also learn to give more to yourself by yourself, so that you don’t feel your joy is dependent on anyone else. Being selfish is a word that has been misused.
Looking after yourself and doing things everyday that make you smile, whether it is playing or listening to music or taking a walk or even playing scrabble, look after YOU and GIVE yourself permission to have fun! Balance isn’t about staying in the centre. Even a car cannot move forward in neutral gear. It is about swaying from side to side. Be kind with yourself and acknowledge your efforts to replace your killjoy habits with joyful ones.

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How to be happier in life: 6 Easy Tips to Follow.

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How to be happier in life easy question right ? Not always, I visited an old friend of mine the other day. Their home is perfect, beautiful cars, two kids the perfect age apart; everything as it would appear is perfect. At work his career is going well. He is on track to become an executive at his company, which he has been at the perfect length of time, yet after spending a weekend with them it’s clear the family is a not a happy family. There seems to be a sense of disconnect, between them, the fighting, the negative behavior of the children, etc this is obviously a void that can’t be filled by all the material objects and work successes they’ve amassed.

I had to ask myself why is that ? How do you avoid letting your life get to a point where you have everything you need, or want but yet still fill unfulfilled ?.  Here are couple of tips I’ve discovered from a combination of books, magazine and online resources.

How to be happier in life Tip 1: Create a Plan for yourself

Create a realistic plan for goals that you feel will make you happy. Sometimes it’s not about completing the goal, but the effort and hard work you put to get there. Hence, the harder you work the better you will feel about yourself because you will feel better about going after something you value. If its not valuable to you, It will not be worth it to work or make the sacrifice to achieve the goal.

How to be happier in life Tip 2: Surround yourself with Positive People

This is often the hardest part of being happy, acknowledging the people you hang around with may not best for you, choose to surround yourself with happy and positive people, and relationships who accentuates the goals you want to accomplish for yourself. If you are around people who are happy with their emotional state, that feeling will be infectious.

How to be happier in life Tip 3:  Failure is inevitable

When something goes awry, or you fail at something don’t wallow in self pity. People who are happy accept their failures as a learning experience and move on. You can have a million failures; all you need is one great success moment. Mathematically speaking it’s statistically impossible to have all failures, you will eventually hit upon success, wallowing in self pity just make the failures last longer.

How to be happier in life Tip 4: Appreciate what/who you have

Don’t disregard the great things you currently have in life. Take a few seconds each day to think about the wonderful things, people, children, pets that are part of your life. These few seconds will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will often change your outlook on bad days.

How to be happier in life Tip 5: Treat Yourself

I once heard Oprah say, that “you must pay yourself first no matter what”, with that being said you have to take time each day and pay yourself, it maybe a compliment, a great lunch, or some extra alone time, these are all ways to subconsciously put yourself in a better mood.

How to be happier in life Tip 6 : Our biggest secret to Happiness…

You know this article had to come back to health and wellness, and healthcare has a lot do with your happiness. Maintaining your health is one of the greatest ways to achieve happiness. Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood. Additionally, exercise, such as yoga, walking running and a myriad of other activities have all been proven to release endorphins that give you a feeling of happiness.

Life is full of so many wonderful people, places, and things. There will always be challenges and roadblocks to overcome. Choosing to focus on being happy and appreciating the things that are great in your life will provide you the necessary tools, and confidence to overcome the challenges and roadblocks you are facing, or will soon face.

Why You Need to Take Family Planning into Your Own Hands.



Family planning is a delicate topic, especially when it concerns a woman. After all, it is a woman who undergoes physical and emotional changes during and after pregnancy. But unfortunately, in a culture like ours, where family and society gets (or rather wants) a say in everything, couples often find themselves confused, leading them to having a baby in haste, which may or may not work in their favour. But you don’t have to be one of those. Here are ways in which you can take charge of family planning in your marriage.

Pregnancy brings in many physical and emotional changes – an uncontrollable bladder, weight gain, sensitive breasts, swollen feet and mood swings are just a few of them. Yet often you have other people deciding that you should go through all of this, instead of you.

What is more alarming is that, most of us are aware only of the barrier method or the condom method to avoid pregnancies. Amongst many families, men still do not take responsibility for contraception and then the wife has no choice to pop a pill within 24 hours. According to WHO Global Health Statistics 2012, only 56% use contraception and most couples do not opt for long-term contraception like IUDs for the fear of side effects.

The options
“Lack of awareness, is a root cause for couples not opting for different methods of contraception,” says Dr Anita Soni, full-time consultant gynaecologist, LH Hiranandani hospital, Mumbai. “Condoms and low dosage hormonal pills are temporary solutions,” she adds. The choice of contraception depends on the age of a woman and her parity, she adds. This means a 25-year-old who has two children and doesn’t wish to expand her family anymore can opt for an IUD (Intra uterine device) like a Copper T to prevent pregnancy. “The Copper T again comes with three options – one which can be inserted for three years, five years or ten years,” Dr Soni explains. On the other hand, a woman above the age of 30 who still wants to have a baby at her own time can opt for other temporary methods like spermicidal jellies or foams.

The talk
“It is important that a couple is comfortable and ready to have a baby. You need to evaluate what you will be getting into mentally and physically. And while both sides of family might want to have a say on it, substantial proof like a prescription for oral contraceptives can help your elders understand about the methods you are adopting,” says Mumbai-based psychologist, Jenisha Shah.

However, she advises drawing lines on how much either of the parents have a say in these matters early in the marriage. And for that she recommends pre-marital counselling. “Important decisions that can affect formation of a child like – the mother’s decision to work or not, kind of schooling and imparting values are a major factor too,” Shah adds.

Baby No.2
Shah also feels that visiting a gynaecologist right from the early stages of family planning will go a long way in helping you decide if you would rather go for a hormonal patch, an IUD or sterilisation of either partners.

“It is advisable not to have the second child within a year of your first baby, even if your elders insist on getting it done with. You are bound to be exhausted and would want some quality time with your spouse. So the best thing to do would be to talk to your spouse about it and inform the family that it is a joint decision,” she suggests.

You may find babies adorable and may not mind babysitting your niece or nephew. But raising a kid on your own is a different ball game altogether. And no one can decide if you’re ready or not, except you. So, take the power in your hands, enlighten yourself and make the right decision.



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What Your Sleep Position Says About You


What Your Sleep Position Says About You

According to Professor Chris Idzikowski, director of the Sleep Assessment and Advisory Service, the position in which you sleep may be linked to your personality type. The professor and his research team recently conducted a study that analyzed the sleep patterns of 1,000 subjects. Here’s what the study found:

The Freefall
Those who sleep face-down with their arms and legs to the side (a position known as ‘the freefall’) are often “extroverted and brash”; they may appear nonchalant on the surface, but deep down they’re sensitive and tend to take criticism very personally. They are also less likely to experience stomach troubles, since sleeping face-down aids the digestive process.

The Fetus
People who sleep curled up on their side (‘the fetus’) ― like the free-fallers ― have a tough outer shell that conceals a soft, gooey filling. They also have a hard time instantly connecting with people. This was also the most common position, despite the fact that ‘the fetus’ can cause organ stress; physicians recommend sleeping on the right side if this is your position of choice.

The Log
Lying on your side with straightened legs and arms extended downward
(‘the log’) is indicative of social charisma; these folks are typically laid back and conversational. However, they may be a little too easy-going, and fall victim to other people who might be out to get the best of them. This position is good for people with chronic back pain, since it allows the spine to completely straighten out.

The Yearner
People who sleep on their sides with outstretched arms (‘the yearner’) are at once open-minded and deeply cynical. They often struggle with crucial decisions as a result, but hardly ever regret their ultimate choices. ‘The yearner’ can benefit people with acid reflux and sleep apnea.

The Soldier
Individuals who choose to lie on their backs with arms and legs sprawled to the side (‘the soldier’) are often reserved, if not complete introverts. They celebrate accomplishments with minimal fanfare, and abide by a strict (one might say, militaristic) personal code of conduct and performance. Unfortunately, this may also be the most problematic position; it can lead to snoring, breathing problems, and other issues that can affect the quality of your sleep.

The Starfish
Finally, those who lie on their backs with their arms extended above their heads (‘the starfish’) are, among other things, great listeners. They’ll usually be happy to lend a hand, even if it means not getting any credit for helping out. The downside: like ‘the soldier’, ‘the starfish’ can induce snoring and respiratory difficulties.

Is this true of you and your sleeping position? Or is Professor Idzikowski’s study way off base as far as you’re concerned?

5 Marriage Lessons that Mothers Should Give to Their Sons.

When it comes to marriages, mothers share a lot of information and give a lot of advice to their daughters. But, they often forget or overlook the importance of imparting some advice when it comes to their sons. In fact, the relationship a son has with his mother or how he sees his mother, is usually reflected on how he sees and treats other women, especially his wife. Therefore, it is important for mothers to have a chat with their sons just before their marriage, on marriage.
To get the ball rolling, here are a few things that this chat can start with. And dear mothers, if you don’t feel like having a face-to-face chat, just share this article with your to-be married sons and we are sure they will get the idea!

*Don’t compare your wife with me!
A mother should make sure that her son never compares his wife to her. Whether it comes to cooking or managing the household, most men end up comparing their better halves to their mommies (knowingly or unknowingly). Dear son, you need to realise that your mother has more than two decades of experience of being a wife (and mother). While, your life partner is as new to marriage as you are. So, whether it is her culinary skills, managing the budget, waking up on time, or anything that the super-mommy does better, do not compare it all with your wife. Your wife is just as awesome in her own way (isn’t that the reason you both are together?), and some day she will be just an awesome mommy to your child.

*Your wife is not your “mommy”!

That’s right, guys! Your wife is not your mommy. This means, it is time to grow up, become responsible, and do some work yourself. And don’t crib about how your mother used to pamper you all the time. You were your mother’s baby, and she was there to take care of you. On the other hand, to your wife, you are her companion, and so you both have to take care of each other. Help her out, divide work, and no matter what, take care of your own things. This means, socks go in the laundry and not on the floor and the wet towel does not belong on the bed.
*Respect your life partner!
Yes, your parents will always be important for you and even for your better half. Having said that, your wife is the one who will be standing by your side and facing all the ups and downs with you always. So, she needs to be treated as an equal. Share with her everything, take her advice in every decision, and give importance to her opinions. Make her your priority. She will never be able to or try to undermine your mother’s position in your life. But, she too deserves your respect. Once you truly see your wife as your ‘better half’ and ‘life partner’, you will be living the happiest.

*Help your wife at every step!
Your wife has kissed goodbye to her family and home for you. So, now it is your turn to make her feel as comfortable as possible in the new home. Her life has turned upside down, and even small things can make her uncomfortable and anxious. So, make sure you become her partner and guide in her new home. Also, make sure that she feels at ease to talk about her feelings. Make sure that you do small little things to make her adjustment to the new environment and lifestyle pleasant and easy.

*Never stop loving your better half!
Not even 40 years later when her hair will not be shiny black or stylish and her face will not have her natural pink blush. Love her unconditionally. Accept her just the way she is because that is the reason you chose her as your better half. Keep surprising her, make her laugh, sweep her off her feet, and keep the relationship forever new and young. Tell her how much you love her even when her hair is all messy when she wakes up in the morning, or when she has flour on her face while she is makingchappatis, and all the other times when she feels that she looks like a mess. Mommy dear, please share your ‘happy and healthy marriage’ secrets with him, because he also needs them as much as your daughters or daughters-in-law do.
Mothers understand that marriages are a lot about compromise and adjustments for both the sides. So, there is no one better who can give these lessons to the grooms.

Is It OK to Work Out During Pregnancy.

Is It OK to Work Out During Pregnancy

By Rituparna Roy Deshpande, Team iDiva

You love to exercise and are one of those who’d not skip a day in the gym. But hey what if the doctor comes ringing with the “Congrats, you are pregnant” news amidst all this? Being the fitness freak that you are, slowing down or discontinuing your exercise routine may seem like the best solution during pregnancy. However, talking to your gynaecologist and a personal trainer who you can trust completely, also helps!

Working out during pregnancy has magical benefits – it not only prepares you for childbirth, but also lifts your mood. Having said that, is it okay to work out during pregnancy? Check out the things that you need to keep in mind.

Gynaec talk: If you have been exercising for a while, then it is perfectly fine to go ahead with your regular workout routine. But the same is not advised if you are suffering from complications in your pregnancy. Rashmi Uttam, ACE (USA) certified trainer says, “Only after you get a clearance from your doc should you start prenatal exercises, and that too from the second trimester.” Moreover, putting your baby’s health at risk is not worth all the trouble.

Eating right: Exercising without following a balanced and nutritious diet is a big no-no! And while it is okay to gorge on those extra calories, (never mind the sweet cravings!) remember that a fitness regimen is naturally going to help you shed those extra pounds. Eat healthy and wholesome meals comprising proteins in the form of poultry, lentils and fish. “Make sure your diet is calcium-rich and has adequate iron too,” adds Rashmi.

Workouts to opt for: Did you know that some light stretching exercises will help you breeze through those nine months of pregnancy? Don’t let body aches bog down the best of you, instead opt for workouts to keep you fit and cheery. Rashmi suggests, “Your fitness goal should not be that of weight loss, instead it must prepare you for labour. Don’t push yourself too much and prevent your body from over heating. Most women can continue low-impact cardiovascular training like walking, swimming, cycling and Pranayam, but under the guidance of a professional.”

Comfy clothing: If you are planning to workout in those figure-hugging gymwear, then here’s a piece of advice for you. Choose loose-fitting and comfortable clothing that helps you breathe during a workout session. Also, invest in a good pair of footwear that will help you get a grip, for you never know you may have outgrown your shoe size due to swelling. “Exercising during cooler times of the day is a good option as it doesn’t leave you feeling sweaty,” adds Rashmi.

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Healthy Ways to Reward Your Kids.

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Healthy Ways to Reward Your Kids

By Team iDiva

Do you hand out candy to your little one every time she eats her food by herself or does her homework on time? Well, that might not be such a good idea. According to a recent study by dailystar.co.uk, parents who give sweets or snacks to their children as a reward for good behaviour could set them up for a life of obesity problems.

What’s more, this widely-used tactic can lead to a bad adult diet, low self-esteem and eating disorders, concludes the same study.

We say ditch the candy and try out these alternative, healthy ways to ensure good behaviour without getting into the sweet-reward trap!

1. Extra playtime
This could be a big incentive for your child to finish her homework early just so that she can have that extra playtime. Kids are bound to love this reward in spite of it being non-materialistic.

2. A book or toy
Reward your child with a book or a toy. The former will establish a good reading habit. But just in case he’s not into reading, buy him his favourite toy. He’ll be ecstatic. Of course, make sure this doesn’t become a practice though.

3. Reward weekends

Let your child accumulate rewards and cash them in over the weekend. An animated movie, a play date with her best friend, an evening at the beach – let your child choose her reward and you can fulfill her wish on your day off from work!

Do you have a healthy alternative way to ensure good behaviour in kids? Leave us a comment and let us know.

Affection Games to Win Back Your Kid’s Smile.

Play affection games to watch your little one laugh away

Affection Games to Win Back Your Kid’s Smile

By Team iDiva

After a long hectic day, ain’t you glad to see your children come home after school? But your efforts to connect can fall flat. And when that happens, it’s hard to know what to do.

There’s a lot to be said for letting our children enjoy some time to simply decompress after school. Our habitual inquiry, “Tell me about your day,” falls flat because our children are tired of communicating on demand. They’ve had grownups directing their attention and asking for answers from them all day long. And it can take time to absorb the warmth of home after buttoning down when their day was spent in the all-too-structured environment at school.

‘Special Time’ can help with after-school or early-evening connection — it allows a child to direct a grownup, for a change, and to decide, fully and entirely, what to do with a chunk of time we offer. It can start out tamely — with a request for a back massage, or a very clever request that you organise that messy clothes drawer and fold everything nicely, while your child tells you what goes where. As you good-naturedly take direction, the safety builds, and often, some kind of impish initiative gets the laughter started. Maybe the massage turns into a startling display of farting or burping prowess. Maybe the clothes-folding request is followed by an order meant to really test your Special Time intentions—your child now wants you to throw all the folded clothes around the room! And as you beg and plead not to “have” to do that, she laughs—she “got” you!

Laughter is a great connector
It’s the sign that the path to your child’s heart is now cleared, and your love is getting through. It creates warmth in your child’s spirit, and of yours, as well. It’s a healing force, melting the day’s separations and releasing the tension that has built because of the distance and non-communication we take for granted in our lives. Laughter can’t be forced, but special time is a powerful incubator.

Benefits of affection games
And once the warmth is flowing again, affection games can help you remind your child that you’re still thrilled to be with him or her. They let your child stay in charge—you hardly ever get to plant your kisses. You hardly ever catch them to give that giant hug you offer. But the chase is the thing. Your loss sparks their laughter. And avoiding your affection lets them receive it, without compromising their independence or shutting down to do a ritual they don’t feel up for at the moment.

How to play
Affection games can start with, “Oh, I’m all full of kisses! I can’t stand it any longer! I have to give them away…” or with a robot voice saying, “Hug. Hug machine. Hug machine coming to hug somebody. Somebody needed for hug machine right now.” Or, “Hey, guess what we forgot! Hug and kiss! You came home, and we missed them. Come here, you!” with a big grin and arms held wide. You don’t force anything. But you do keep trying. You look for the laughter, and then create more play at exactly that distance, or with that kind of near-miss attempt, or with that goofy voice.

More than one child can be involved—three children might all team up to make sure that you don’t manage to hug any one of them. They pull you off the object of your affection, who makes an escape, and when you turn to try to give a big hug to the defender, they swarm in to free her, too. We call this Playlistening—you take the less powerful role in play, and do what you can to promote laughter, without tickling.

“100 hugs,” “I want you,” “I just want to kiss one little finger, pleeease,” and “How have I lived without you all day?” are great lead-ins to a good chase, laughter and connection. Be inventive.

This kind of play is really good for us parents, too. The light in our children’s eyes nourishes us in deep ways, and the challenge to be creative moment by moment is a healthy one. Their laughter becomes ours too as they invent their escape strategies. And bringing them our affection is exactly what we hoped to do as parents all along — to show our love, and to make every effort to see that they receive it. In affection play, we can go all out. We can run hard, we get to try and try again. In all, a great antidote to a day at school or at work!

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Just Married? How to Design Your First Home Together

Just Married? How to Design Your First Home Together

By iDiva Trendspotter

Getting married is a big decision in everyone’s life. Right from deciding on Mr or Ms Right to how to propose and the size of the diamond on the ring, everything matters.

But what happens when you buy your own house and want to decorate it? Do you buy furniture and paint the walls keeping only your tastes in mind? Or do you decide with your better half?

The choice is obvious but not easy. All choices need to be made mutually. From the kind of curtains you use to the furniture and most importantly the colour of your walls.

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Remember, just because you want to make your better half happy you don’t have to agree with their choice. You can have an opinion of your own. The idea is to come to a mutual understanding or agreement. Maintain your identity in the house too. Most men would not like pink walls in their living room nor would many women want grey walls in the bedroom. The best way to come to a decision is to discuss and then agree.

Here’s a very interesting site www.letscolour.in, which had a real life example of how couples can make decisions faster. The site offers a real life example on how this couple who were recently married decided on various furniture and styles for their home.

Tips for the transition
The site offered a few tips to keep in mind when decorating your home as a couple.

1. Compromise: Each of you have likes and dislikes. Meet somewhere in the middle and agree.
2. Throw it out: You don’t really need that old desk from university. Be willing to let some things go – even if they have sentimental value.
3. Make a shopping date: If you decorate as a team you can’t blame each other if something doesn’t work out.
4. Choose colours together: Even the most colour-averse bridegroom (or bride) has a few favourite hues. Plus, painting together is fun!

Marriage in itself is a huge leap in life. Therefore making adjustments to your new environment will be a lot easier if you both do it together.