Moms and Their Struggle to Feed Picky Eaters.

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Moms and Their Struggle to Feed Picky Eaters

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Every visit to my mom’s house is filled with questions about my kids’ eating habits. I always tell her the kids eat everything but she insists on making something special for them. Each time she calls, I put down the phone in a frenzy saying I am busy feeding the kids and will call back later. An hour later when I call her back she will ask, “Did the kids eat well?” In her mind I know she wonders why I get worked up about the kid’s meals. She will often say “I raised four kids but didn’t ever need to feed them. And they eat so healthy! Wonder how we did it?”

I know she empathises with me on how I manage my kids in today’s time but I also know that she wonders why it is so difficult to feed children today. Our parents probably didn’t spend half as much money or time in feeding us. Picky eaters were a novel concept back then. So really what has changed?

The other day I made dosa for my daughter and she insisted on having it with cheese. I growled like a mama bear, “How can every food item have cheese in it?” How do you know what it tastes like if it’s loaded with cheese and butter?

When I was a kid, I don’t remember cheese as a food item at all. I don’t remember butter even, except the white butter that we had with bajra roti.

Maggi, which was probably only Rs.5 back then seemed so expensive that our parents bought it only once in the summer holidays. Today, our kids grow up eating organic fruits and vegetables, cage-free eggs and gourmet foods but still it takes us an iPad, high chair, favourite TV show and a dedicated person to feed them. Parents are so particular about the source of food and where it comes from, how it is cleaned, where it is bought from and so on.

If you Google picky eaters in the 80s, it will be hard to find an article, and if you Google it without the year, you will find lots of ideas on how to feed them. There were no food art ideas, no blogs that helped you feed picky eaters and no time to wonder and discuss which food group your child is probably missing out on. My mom believes that it was because we had respect and discipline, but no compulsions.

I don’t think moms back then had the time or the help to blend all the vegetables the child needed to eat. I never heard of a child back then saying I don’t eat fruits and never saw moms running tirelessly after their little ones feeding them a garden snack.

As a Gujarati girl, I don’t remember my mom telling me not to eat jalebis, gathiyas or chakris because it’s junk. I made that choice. And in hindsight, the way our parents raised us seems way better than what we are doing today. As I serve more dosas to the daughter, I search for answers and think whether it is a choice that has really spoilt them or awareness that has us troubled. I am still wondering if it is the limited patience both in parents and children or manpower and money at disposal that makes food, a basic necessity for some, such an important part of an urban parent’s life.

 

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25 Ways to Make a Girl Smile

25 Ways to Make a Girl Smile

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Ever noticed how a little puppy only has to wag his tail and nudge you with its tiny paw to make you smile? Well, winning a girl over is that easy. You don’t need to have a funny bone or a romantic vein in your body; to make a girl laugh all you need is a sincere wish to see a big, bright smile on her face. Here are 25 ways to make a girl smile.

1. Surprise her with a nice dinner when she comes home. If you don’t know how to cook, then order her favourite dish from a restaurant.

2. Sing her to sleep. Let her feel like a child.

 

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3. Send her a cute text while she’s sleeping. So when she wakes up, she’ll wake up with a smile.

4. Call her beautiful, instead of pretty, cute or gorgeous.

5. Go out for a stroll. Hold her hand while walking.

 

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6. Have a date planned out so all she has to do is look good and show up.

7. Sneak up behind her, hold her around her waist, kiss her softly on the neck and tell her you love her.

 

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8. Randomly send her a text telling her you miss her.

9. Bring her flowers for no reason at all. Not just when you’re in trouble or on Valentine’s Day.

 

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10. Make her a handmade card.

11. Buy her a pair of earrings or anklets. Then every time she wears it, she’ll think about you and smile.

12. Give her a bear hug.

 

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13. Play with her hair.

14. Hold her hand while crossing a road. Open the door for her when you enter a restaurant.

 

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15. Set a special caller tune for her.

16. Give her a foot massage or a back rub.

17. Take her best friends out for coffee / dinner. She’ll appreciate your gesture of getting to know her friends. Also, the compliments her friends will give her for being so lucky to have a thoughtful boyfriend like you will make her gloat.

 

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18. Support her ambition.

19. Don’t get jealous of her guy friends. Don’t impose a rulebook of dos and don’ts on her. This will let her know that you trust her completely.

20. Spend a night watching a movie and cuddling instead of going out with the guys.

21. Slow-dance with her even if there’s no music.

 

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22. Write something romantic on her Facebook wall. Seeing her friends get jealous will secretly make her happy.

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23. Unexpectedly, tell her one thing you liked about her the first time you met her.

24. Tell her how much you love her. It doesn’t hurt to be expressive once in a while.

 

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25. Begin a sentence with, “Next year on your birthday…”, “Next Christmas we’ll…” or “Next rainy season we’ll…” This will let her know that you’re serious about this relationship and that you’re in it for the long haul.

Do you know any other way to make a girl smile? Leave us a comment and let us know

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How to Improve Your Efficiency at Work

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By TNN

There is way too much going on around you and inside your mind. It’s no surprise that attention makes only a short appearance in the day and is hard to sustain. Our experts tell you how to rise above the distractions and improve your efficiency.

One thing at a time
You are working on a project against a fast-approaching deadline and your boss comes and hands you another to complete. In the middle of this, your wife calls and asks you to help out with an address she cannot find. Your target is to complete these three tasks, say, within an hour. Multi-tasking would mean you giving 33 per cent of your efforts to each of the three tasks and the quality of output will be low for all three tasks with more time spent on each of them. Life coach Captain Vinod Nair suggests you prioritise what is most important for you. “By doing so, you will be giving 100 per cent of your brain to one task at a time, focusing on it and accomplishing it twice as fast,” he says.

Fast five
Whenever you are in the middle of a task and are tempted to give up, push yourself to do ‘five more’. This means don’t switch off, instead wait five more minutes, read five more pages or work five more minutes. Doing this will help build mental stamina just as sports persons push past the point of exhaustion to up their physical strength. When your mind is finally giving up, insist on reading a book or writing a project brief or solving a balance sheet problem for five more minutes. This will build mental endurance over a period of time and help you accomplish a given task with greater ease.

See and feel, really
Artist Frederick Franck said, “When the eye wakes up to see again, it suddenly stops taking anything for granted.” Your mind may be wandering through a hundred random thoughts, but it always knows to treasure a great sight. So when your mind is far away, it will help to look around and for a change, actually see everything around you. Admire the painting on the wall, revel in the beauty of the sculpture that has always escaped your attention, or just look again and closely at a loved one you tend to take for granted. This will make it come alive in your mind’s eye. Having white noise in the background such as instrumental music will help you ignore the more distracting stimuli from your surroundings.

Recharge with eustress
Nair advises indulging in activities that boost the eustress, which is basically the good stress. “You can feel eustress after engaging in a challenge, riding a roller-coaster, watching a scary movie or having sex,” he says. Eustress doesn’t carry the same type of damage as chronic stress. In fact, in the state of eustress, energies of the mind are highly focused and organized during which you can pull off tasks with competence. What also greatly aids concentration is the glucose metabolism in the brain, which is at its peak after breakfast. Concentrate on the most important or difficult tasks during this time.

To do or not to do
Fix a time in the day for worrying. When you are about to begin a job that needs your complete attention, worries tend to float into your brain. Tackle your brain’s never-ending preoccupation by telling it what to worry about and what not. Just remind yourself that you will worry about that unpaid bill exactly at 7 pm, and not now. To-do lists alleviate your brain’s anxiety — once written, you’re free to forget them. Assign every task a strict time-span. Tell yourself, “For the next 30 minutes I will focus on formulating the client brief for tomorrow’s presentation at office,” is a better bet than worrying about the worry. That said, taking short breaks between demanding tasks helps keep your mind alert. “Even a short break of 5-10 minutes every two-three hours improves efficiency of the brain with sustained attention,” says Dutta.

Rewire your brain
Just before you start, focus on your breathing for five to 15 minutes each day and it can make a significant difference to your attention spans in everyday life.From the experiments conducted on those who meditate, Dr Varsha Dutta, consultant clinical neuro-psychologist at Dr Balabhai Nanavati Hospital, found that meditation increased activity in the brain regions used for paying attention and decision-making. “The experiments have shown that people who meditate, which is a mindfulness technique, are able to switch attention between tasks more efficiently than people who do not. Meditation has rewired their brain processes in such a way that their attention spans have increased more than average.”

Two hemispheres
When the communication between the two brain hemispheres is efficient, you are able to accomplish tasks with greater attention and proficiency. Scientific experiments have shown that horizontal movement of the eyes from left to right while watching a target on the move for at least 30 seconds can help improve communication between the left and right hemispheres of the brain. Try this type of eye movement by watching a certain car move in the traffic.

Procrastination
Stop putting off tasks and errands by simply asking yourself these questions whenever you are about to postpone any work: Do I have to do this? Do I want it done so that it’s not on my mind? Will it be any easier later? The answers to these will give you an instant check on how this task will keep getting counter-productive the more you delay. And oh, the guilt of not getting it done, that will make its home in your head too.

Author: Ankit Ajmera

How Working Women Should Find Their Way Forward

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HOW WORKING WOMEN SHOULD FIND THEIR WAY FORWARD

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 At one of my motivational talks  on “Women, Work and Leadership Development” at a prominent IT company recently, I was approached by a timid young woman who stayed back after her colleagues had left, to talk about her very challenging situation. Turns out she had delivered a baby four years ago and had to give up her job so that she could raise the child. She had recently come back to work but struggled to cope between being mom and employee.

It is the same old problem that all of us women face – being pulled in different directions by the competing demands of our careers, guilt over leaving our kids so we can go to work, and the mind numbing fatigue that takes over body and soul from constantly being on the treadmill.

While most women at the talk listened, some terribly boyish young men ones and some middle-aged ones too, sat through the entire event as if none of it concerned them. Kids? Home? PTAs? What has it got to do with us, was very clearly the attitude.

My heart went out to her a bit when she said that despite the fact that this is not the first time and will certainly not be the last time that I have heard this story. Young women meets man of her dreams, marries, children come along, family responsibilities follow and before she knows what hit her, her career is on the back burner while she feeds  and burps the baby, changes diapers endlessly, and struggles to look reasonably sane while all this is being achieved.

Don’t worry too much about it. It will get better. The kids will be grown up before you know it and you will be free to pursue your own goals – I said. You have to just hang in there and keep the faith.

As a very young mother I had struggled with all of these and emerged triumphant in spirit, raring to go. Being a work- from -home journalist taught me time management, prioritisation, discipline and the merit of delegating some stuff. Supermoms and tiger moms end up burning themselves out and that is no good for anyone, especially themselves.

Admittedly I lost my younger years without any ‘me time’ – I never went to the spa, bought myself glamorous clothes or pampered myself with holidays. I know a few women who insist it cost them their marriage because who wants a hag who smells of baby vomit, right?

At a panel discussion on the journey of power women from being bosses at work to moms at home, veteran banker and CEO of investment bank Moelis India, Manisha Girotra, charmed the audience when she spoke of being terrified of having to live without a nanny at home to look after her daughter. “I might be the boss at the workplace, but at home the nanny is the boss”. Girotra spoke of guilt over missing chunks of her only daughter’s life, but said the trick is to be there for key events. “You miss some of the good moments but it does not kill you,” she said.

Capgemini India chief Aruna Jayanthi told her daughter early in life that she had a career and would not always be present for PTAs or birthday parties. Either she or her husband is present in the city at all times for their daughter and Jayanthi’s mother has been the chief nurturer since baby was three weeks old.

“If there is one country where it is easy for a woman to work, it is India. My colleagues in other countries such as France are jealous of what we have here, supportive parents and in-laws.”Jayanthi said.

Both these ladies provide crucial support so that their women employees can simultaneously fulfil their career aspirations and be primary nurturers at home.

At Capgemini, flexible hours is the buzz word, and employees can choose the hours they work to get the job done. Jayanthi herself burns the midnight oil after the child has gone to bed.

It is alright for a woman to take a couple of years off from work to raise their toddlers. “If they are confident and talented, they will always find employment. Corporates lose big time when trained talent stays at home,”Jayanthi said.

Yesteryears superstar, Sridevi came back recently from a 15- year break while she raised her two daughters and says she enjoyed the process, getting the kids ready for school, preparing lunch for them and being there when they returned home.

Both Girotra and Jayanthi insist 50% of the new recruits at the organisation are female. Capgemini provides mentoring programmes for women to seamlessly get back to work after a break.

Most women leaders who I interviewed for Leading Ladies, including Axis boss Shikha Sharma and HSBC India head Naina Lal Kidwai credited the loving support of parents and in-laws for their successful journeys.

Girotra has a useful tip for working women doing their trapeze act – Take each day at a time, put support systems in place to step in for you and keep going. Be stubborn, be strong and you will eventually master the act of being boss and mom all in one!
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TEN (10) THINGS TO MAKE YOU PERFECT TO HER.


TEN (10) THINGS TO MAKE YOU PERFECT TO HER.

Although every woman will have different priorities when it comes to what makes a perfect partner there are some things on which most
women agree.
Men often say that they don’t
understand what women want from them but really it’s not that difficult. There are some key qualities that women are looking for when they’re dating and it’s on these that they will judge whether you will make a good boyfriend. None of them are difficult and all men can do them even if it takes a bit of practice.
1. Good hygiene – its number one because it’s so important. If you’re going on a date make sure you shower, brush your teeth and use some deodorant. While some pheromones might be a turn-on, BO is not. Taking care over your appearance, your home and even your car if she’s going to ride in it are all marks of respect which
women value.
2. Attention – generally women love to talk and they want a man who’ll listen to them without rolling their eyes or tuning out. Show the woman in your life you care by really paying her some attention rather than just lapping up the attention she gives you.
3. Sense of humour – make her laugh, help her see the lighter side of life and not only will it make you feel good about yourself but she’ll come to see you as someone who
could be a real friend as well as a partner.
4. Sensitivity – you don’t need to wear your heart on your sleeve all the time but it’s important that you let her see you have a sensitive side even if you never let anyone else
see it.
5. Honesty – there’s a lot of guys out there who are players and women are looking for someone who they can trust. Your honesty can be demonstrated in small ways like being on time, doing what you say you are going to do and telling her the truth about how you feel.
6. Respect – it doesn’t matter how liberated or feminist a woman is they all want to be treated with respect. That means caring about her feelings, supporting her and not
messing her about.
7. Integrity – women respect men who have values, beliefs, principals and who will stand up for what they
believe in. Men are often physically stronger but even if they aren’t women want to know a man will stand up for her, protect her and be on her side when she needs it.
8. Thoughtfulness – doing those little jobs without being nagged; sending a message just to let her know you’re thinking of her or remembering something important
that’s going on in her life even if it doesn’t involve you. Offer to help her when you can but don’t assume she’s always asking you to fix a problem sometimes she might just want you to listen.
9. Desire – no woman wants to be with a man who doesn’t find her attractive. She needs to know it is her you desire rather than just s*x. Show this through affection,
compliments and don’t assume she should know, tell her.
10. Ability to commit – while some women may prefer the emotionally unavailable type, those who are genuinely looking for a boyfriend want someone who shows that they
have the ability to commit. Be on time for dates; make arrangements and stick to them, don’t be flaky when it comes to your feelings about her. Consistency and stability
in your work, friendships and family situation are all great indicators that you are someone she can rely on.
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HOW MANY TIMES DO I NEED TO ADJUST?


HOW MANY TIMES DO I NEED TO ADJUST?
By beingawoman.net
I’m not sure how many of unexpected life changes you have experienced, but I’ve experienced enough to say, that life is absolutely unpredictable, in both ways; the good and the bad. The good is great, and I wish it was happening all the time; the bad, well, let’s say it’s always a learning curve.
Whatever the unexpected change, we need to adjust. We don’t really have much choice here, but it is entirely up to us to decide how we’re going to adapt; either as a victim, or to be in charge.
And by no means, it’s going to be easy
So how many times do we need to adjust?
I don’t even want to attempt to count, but there’re three times in life when obviously we struggle more than ever;
Terrible two;
Teenage years;
Midlife crisis.
In all these situations it’s like going out of a certain ‘comfort zone’ in our lives into the next one; unknown and so absolutely uncertain, where we can only judge from observing others who already have been there.
The crisis is our rebellion against an unavoidable change; unavoidable, because it’s coming, either we like it or not.
Of course, asa two years old toddler, our understanding is zilch, so our rebellion is the only tool we have, and many of us used it to our full advantage. Maybe, if parents understand why their perfect angels suddenly turn into horrible creatures, driving everyone around them nuts, this would help the process become less dramatic. (I’m not a hundred percent sure though, as I came up with the theoryafterour family survived that stage.)
Teenage yearsare extremely difficult not just for parents, but even more for teenagers. Suddenly you’re not a child any more, but you’re not an adult yet. Suddenly what made you happy before doesn’t work now. You understand so much more, but not enough. You want to find a safe place for yourself, but there’s none; you’re out of your safety zone. Where do you fit in? Where do you want to fit in?
You start thinking independently of your known authorities, but what examples do you follow?
Based on my extensive experiences with three girls and different challenges with each of them in their teenage years, I came to the realization, that these difficult times are a ‘preparation time’ for young people to learn how to cope with their adult lives. Probably that’s when they need our guidance more than ever, but it’s very important how we present it; as an advice or as a set of rules to follow.
What about if we put some balance into it, and the rules will have a lot of advice and explanation attached?
What abouta midlife crisis?
You can postpone it if you don’t have time to go through it when you’re around forty. And then you may think that it doesn’t concern you, that you’re managing your life so well.
But in most cases the timewillcome when you start questioning yourself; what you have or haven’t achieved so far, what happened to your dreams, what happened to the person you used to know to be you.
It could be a very daunting experience to realize that you would change your life circumstances if you could.
Now, I don’t imply that it’s a good idea ‘to rock your boat’ on a first impulse, but I know that if you’re not happy, nobody around you will be happy neither.
Suffering and sacrificing yourself for any course will rather have more negative results than positive; it will suffocate and slowly keep ‘eating’ you away.
We DO have the right to be happy, and do whatever makes us happy. And nobody has the right to take it away from us, unless we let them.
If you make a well thought thorough decision to change something in your life, something that will increase your happiness, I strongly believe we owe it to ourselves, regardless of what others think about it. After the initial uprising, it will bring harmony and balance back to our existence.
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5 Marriage Lessons that Mothers Should Give to Their Sons.

When it comes to marriages, mothers share a lot of information and give a lot of advice to their daughters. But, they often forget or overlook the importance of imparting some advice when it comes to their sons. In fact, the relationship a son has with his mother or how he sees his mother, is usually reflected on how he sees and treats other women, especially his wife. Therefore, it is important for mothers to have a chat with their sons just before their marriage, on marriage.
To get the ball rolling, here are a few things that this chat can start with. And dear mothers, if you don’t feel like having a face-to-face chat, just share this article with your to-be married sons and we are sure they will get the idea!

*Don’t compare your wife with me!
A mother should make sure that her son never compares his wife to her. Whether it comes to cooking or managing the household, most men end up comparing their better halves to their mommies (knowingly or unknowingly). Dear son, you need to realise that your mother has more than two decades of experience of being a wife (and mother). While, your life partner is as new to marriage as you are. So, whether it is her culinary skills, managing the budget, waking up on time, or anything that the super-mommy does better, do not compare it all with your wife. Your wife is just as awesome in her own way (isn’t that the reason you both are together?), and some day she will be just an awesome mommy to your child.

*Your wife is not your “mommy”!

That’s right, guys! Your wife is not your mommy. This means, it is time to grow up, become responsible, and do some work yourself. And don’t crib about how your mother used to pamper you all the time. You were your mother’s baby, and she was there to take care of you. On the other hand, to your wife, you are her companion, and so you both have to take care of each other. Help her out, divide work, and no matter what, take care of your own things. This means, socks go in the laundry and not on the floor and the wet towel does not belong on the bed.
*Respect your life partner!
Yes, your parents will always be important for you and even for your better half. Having said that, your wife is the one who will be standing by your side and facing all the ups and downs with you always. So, she needs to be treated as an equal. Share with her everything, take her advice in every decision, and give importance to her opinions. Make her your priority. She will never be able to or try to undermine your mother’s position in your life. But, she too deserves your respect. Once you truly see your wife as your ‘better half’ and ‘life partner’, you will be living the happiest.

*Help your wife at every step!
Your wife has kissed goodbye to her family and home for you. So, now it is your turn to make her feel as comfortable as possible in the new home. Her life has turned upside down, and even small things can make her uncomfortable and anxious. So, make sure you become her partner and guide in her new home. Also, make sure that she feels at ease to talk about her feelings. Make sure that you do small little things to make her adjustment to the new environment and lifestyle pleasant and easy.

*Never stop loving your better half!
Not even 40 years later when her hair will not be shiny black or stylish and her face will not have her natural pink blush. Love her unconditionally. Accept her just the way she is because that is the reason you chose her as your better half. Keep surprising her, make her laugh, sweep her off her feet, and keep the relationship forever new and young. Tell her how much you love her even when her hair is all messy when she wakes up in the morning, or when she has flour on her face while she is makingchappatis, and all the other times when she feels that she looks like a mess. Mommy dear, please share your ‘happy and healthy marriage’ secrets with him, because he also needs them as much as your daughters or daughters-in-law do.
Mothers understand that marriages are a lot about compromise and adjustments for both the sides. So, there is no one better who can give these lessons to the grooms.

MARRIAGE TALKS II


MARRIAGE TALKS II
Avoid boredom in the bedroom. Don’t turn your bedroom into a courtroom. Leave unfinished business, quarrels & fights out of the bedroom. Let your bedroom be a place of bonding & intimacy with your spouse. Let your bedroom be a place of peace, prayer & play. Let your bedroom be a place of security & refuge for your spouse. Let your bedroom be a place to unwind & relax with your spouse. It is in the bedroom on the sacred marriage bed where the oneness of marriage is perfected. Make your bedroom exceptionally pleasant & the most peaceful room in your house. Make the bedroom so enticing & fascinating that the thought of coming home to the bedroom will cause your spouse to leave everyone & everything to come home running to you.
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Marriage Talks.


MARRIAGE TALKS.
Cohabitation does not equal marriage. Marriage is a covenant, and cohabitation is a convenience. True love does not fear the commitment of marriage. A man who truly loves her woman will not just live with her. He will marry her & publicly vow to live with her “till death do us part.” If you truly love her, you wouldn’t find it too hard to say “will you marry me?” Do the honorable thing & turn your cohabitation convenience into a marriage covenant.
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How to Be Happy Everyday!

How to Be Happy Everyday!

By Nona Walia

Happiness is not about an event, a person or a phase in your life. You can have happiness ergardless of what is going on around you. But happiness does not come easy to everyone. Sometimes happiness needs to be consciously practised. Here’s how to be happy everyday!

Forecast your feeling
Being happy is all about having the guts to forecast your feelings. Talk about your moods and  then change their frequency.

Says spiritual guru BK Shivani, “Most of the happiness in life today is ‘up’ happiness, and is closely followed by ‘down’ sorrow. ‘Up’ happiness is usually induced by and dependent on something outside ourselves – a person, an event (my team won) or a substance. It’s always followed by a ‘down’ sorrow. Simply choose to be content with the way things are outside and around you. Choosing this kind of contentment means not beating yourself up emotionally, and not trying to fix others mentally or verbally.”
 
The Mood Indicator
Every one hour ask yourself, “How is my mood?” Says film director Bhavna Talwar, “Find joy in little things and overcome life’s unending obstacles with a smile. Keep doing little things that make you happy.”

Don’t watch others
Jealousy can destroy your happiness. It really isn’t the recipe for happiness. Says actor Suchitra Krishnamoorthi, “For me, it’s about living my life exactly the way I want to, on my own terms, doing all the things that make me happy.”

BK Shivani adds, “When you spend time watching others it’s too easy to become a little envious, to want what they have, to aspire to be what they are. You cannot be someone else, you cannot find real, happiness and contentment in a moment of achievement – a high yes – but not real stable, contentment. Simply be yourself – be content with yourself, accept yourself. When you are you, then you become phenomenally attractive to others and the world will come to sit at your feet and serve your every need.”
 
Feel gratitude
Ashok Chopra, CEO of Hay House believes, “The secret is simple: feel the gratitude and be grateful. It helps you live in the now. The first step is to be self-aware.” Says art critic Shobha Deepak Singh, “For me, I say a prayer of thank you ever moment. It gives me amazing peace.”
 
Don’t be dependent
Don’t depend on other people to make you happy. There’s bound to be disappointment. Says Ma Naina of Osho: “We are taught to make our happiness dependent on some event, condition, person, object etc. This is why we keep delaying our happiness until things are just right in our life. And that’s why, in order to be happy we must make our happiness a decision and not a dependency.  Connect with yourself.”

Healthy Ways to Reward Your Kids.

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Healthy Ways to Reward Your Kids

By Team iDiva

Do you hand out candy to your little one every time she eats her food by herself or does her homework on time? Well, that might not be such a good idea. According to a recent study by dailystar.co.uk, parents who give sweets or snacks to their children as a reward for good behaviour could set them up for a life of obesity problems.

What’s more, this widely-used tactic can lead to a bad adult diet, low self-esteem and eating disorders, concludes the same study.

We say ditch the candy and try out these alternative, healthy ways to ensure good behaviour without getting into the sweet-reward trap!

1. Extra playtime
This could be a big incentive for your child to finish her homework early just so that she can have that extra playtime. Kids are bound to love this reward in spite of it being non-materialistic.

2. A book or toy
Reward your child with a book or a toy. The former will establish a good reading habit. But just in case he’s not into reading, buy him his favourite toy. He’ll be ecstatic. Of course, make sure this doesn’t become a practice though.

3. Reward weekends

Let your child accumulate rewards and cash them in over the weekend. An animated movie, a play date with her best friend, an evening at the beach – let your child choose her reward and you can fulfill her wish on your day off from work!

Do you have a healthy alternative way to ensure good behaviour in kids? Leave us a comment and let us know.

Just Married? How to Design Your First Home Together

Just Married? How to Design Your First Home Together

By iDiva Trendspotter

Getting married is a big decision in everyone’s life. Right from deciding on Mr or Ms Right to how to propose and the size of the diamond on the ring, everything matters.

But what happens when you buy your own house and want to decorate it? Do you buy furniture and paint the walls keeping only your tastes in mind? Or do you decide with your better half?

The choice is obvious but not easy. All choices need to be made mutually. From the kind of curtains you use to the furniture and most importantly the colour of your walls.

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Remember, just because you want to make your better half happy you don’t have to agree with their choice. You can have an opinion of your own. The idea is to come to a mutual understanding or agreement. Maintain your identity in the house too. Most men would not like pink walls in their living room nor would many women want grey walls in the bedroom. The best way to come to a decision is to discuss and then agree.

Here’s a very interesting site www.letscolour.in, which had a real life example of how couples can make decisions faster. The site offers a real life example on how this couple who were recently married decided on various furniture and styles for their home.

Tips for the transition
The site offered a few tips to keep in mind when decorating your home as a couple.

1. Compromise: Each of you have likes and dislikes. Meet somewhere in the middle and agree.
2. Throw it out: You don’t really need that old desk from university. Be willing to let some things go – even if they have sentimental value.
3. Make a shopping date: If you decorate as a team you can’t blame each other if something doesn’t work out.
4. Choose colours together: Even the most colour-averse bridegroom (or bride) has a few favourite hues. Plus, painting together is fun!

Marriage in itself is a huge leap in life. Therefore making adjustments to your new environment will be a lot easier if you both do it together.